#TeamPowell – Page 2 – Mom Dad CuppaKids

Finding the Edge of Comfortable

by Jenn & Chris on July 19, 2016

When everything feels icky & squirmy & totally uncertain

Mom Says:

I was a bulging, sweating, 8 months pregnant hot mess in the middle of one of the hottest heat waves we have ever experienced. My husband will recount to you tales of woe and suffering as he endured the words “I’M UNCOMFORTABLE!!” more times than I care to remember. It has become a standing joke between us, one that is typically accompanied with boohoos and mockery to indicate said Uncomfortablist is being entirely unreasonable.

On a happier pregnant days — On a happier pregnant day at the cottage

The word comfort has been an enemy in so many ways throughout my life. At the start of our marriage, I would share with my husband (often) my thoughts that the minute we were comfortable, we were done for. Comfortable meant being normal, stagnant, conforming and lacking passion. I didn’t want us to ever get there. I wanted us to strive for date nights and spicy moments so that the notion of comfort would never take hold.

I am often found pushing myself past my comfort zone. Whether it’s skydiving, scuba diving, motorcycling, bungee jumping, or climbing mountains, I have done it all. At the start of every one of these adventures, I am scared poopless. Every. Single. Time. Until I do it & then realize that that wasn’t so bad after all.

The whole fam came out to support me when I jumped out of a plane. I hope we are teaching our kids to be fearless. — The whole fam came out to support me when I jumped out of a plane. My only hope is that we are teaching our kids to be fearless.

I like it & I don’t like it. It feels icky and squirmy and often disagreeable. Yet something about pushing through the hard parts, to conquer and achieve a challenge on the other side makes it so worth the initial grossness of it all.

The thing is, I have started to think of my comfort zone as exactly that. It’s just a zone. It’s not your prison cell. Your zone can take on different shapes or sizes. The more we push, the bigger our space of allowable adventure becomes. We just have to keep pushing out the walls.

As we hit our 3 month window before we leave on our #CuppaRTW Round The World trip, I have recognized I have that uncomfortable feeling once again. This feels new for me because this time it’s not just me getting out of the zone. We as a family are taking this on, all parts of it feel foreign and unsettled.

I have been trying to explore what is actually causing these whirl-a-gig butterflies inside me and I think for the most part I have figured it out.

We are planning to not plan which for a planner makes things all kinds of up in the air. I feel like I’m on a roller coaster that’s pulled out of the station and already on the ride but need to get past the urge to hold my breath through the whole thing because its a long time before its over.
I am curious how we are going to manage surviving as a family 24/7 over the next many months. We are a strong team and we all love each other dearly but we already know we are going to plan for breaks or we will end up killing each other before we get out of South America. We have even invented a safe word to roll out on the days for the kids (or each other) are driving us so batty that we might say something we regret. We are also planning on taking days in which one of us takes the kids and in which we each take one kid to keep things different and exciting.
Very soon, we will no longer have a home. We are letting go & rid of most of our stuff. The grounding stuff. As we start packing up, we are starting to work on how to create a new version of “Home” for us & the kids. We will have no place to come back to and the concept of coming home will now have to truly live in “home is where the heart is”. So how do we teach that to our kids?

I know these are all just growing pains as we start this new chapter in our life. I just can’t wait till my brain is settled on the other side and starts feeling more comfortable (baahaaahaa) with it all.

Climbing Kili was something I thought impossible. Until we did it.

Dad says:

oh, the pain of comfort…

I am, unlike above, comfortable with comfort to a point. The balance I constantly try to strike is to look around and appreciate accomplishments before running off to literally jump of a cliff. There is little joy in a life so hectic that you forget to breathe, look around, smell the roses, you know, LIVE…

Part of joy is enjoy, which is a poorly spelt word that should be in-joy. Get in the moment, relish it, then set you sights on the next adventure.

Changing the World Travel

Who ARE MomDadCuppaKids?

by Jenn & Chris on June 28, 2016

We can all agree there is so so much noise on the internet. For us, its really important that we don’t want this blog to add to the clutter. We want it to be fun, informative, open, and genuine.

As we get closer towards to leaving on our #CuppaRTW: Round The World Adventures, we’ve been thinking a lot on how to bring fresh & new ideas here.

Our hopes are that we can help inspire people one way or another and we do believe we can do it ways that will truly provide value.

But we realized first and foremost that you might not really know us that well.

To keep it simple, this is us.

We’re a bit goofy, awfully fun and a pretty easy-going family who like to dance and who want to live life to the fullest while we are here.

To decide if you would like to follow along on our journey, here are a few

FUN FACTS on #TEAMPOWELL

Chris has a dry, sarcastic, witty sense of humour. Jenn is more silly, cheeky and out there raw.

We met at the airport, during an ice storm at which time Chris convinced the airline to fly me all the way across the country to turn around to get back to the middle as it was the only flight (his by the way) leaving that night.

We love the outdoors and grew up at the cottage. Water is our peace place.

We are the couple that gets put at the table to keep the conversation alive at a wedding or an event.

We were on the Marilyn Denis Show ( a national TV show in Canada) for the Couples Weight Loss Challenge and both lost 40lbs in 5 months. They dubbed us #TeamPowell and its stuck ever since.

We truly are a team and have supported each other through careers, entrepreneurship, extensive travel, special needs and more. Family is key and our rule is don’t ever keep score.

We are warrior advocates for our special needs son who put far more emphasis on the “special” than the needs, working hard to make life more about managing through Autism than Autism leading the conga line.

Our kids have picked up our love of dancing, adventure, exploration and sarcasm.

We climbed Mt. Kilimajaro as a way to celebrate 2 milestones- Jenn’s 40th bday and our 10th Anniversary. It wasn’t as hard as we thought but man were we awfully smelly/put our marriage to the test in the long run.

We love hosting parties (Jenn & Lauren have a particular love of turning everything into a theme) and it would be normal to find people dancing in our living room at 2am.

We believe that we are all one. That one of the essential values to pass on to our kids is to give back & pay it forward wherever we can. To always stop if someone needs help.

We have no idea where this part of our lives will take us next but we are hoping that by journaling this we can create something amazing & positive.

Please let us know what you would like to see so that we can make this the best blog it can be.

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Real Life Travel

How Did We Get Here?

by Jenn & Chris on April 28, 2016

How we made the choice to travel the world with our kids.

Mom Says:

We have a kind of quirky approach to getting shit done.

For days/weeks/months we noodle. We say things like “yeahhhhh, we should do that” or ” we are going to have to get that done soon”. We discuss, we let it roll around our tongues, we check out how it feels.

Then one day, without any prompts we JUST DO IT. Not in an organized, excel spreadsheet, plan of action kind of way (wouldn’t that be amazing). No, we just go and let the day takes us where it may.

In the history of our relationship this has included buying a condo, buying cars, furniture, booking trips, selling our house and and now we can include travelling the globe.

Without a real plan, we just decide that today is the day we go for it. In that moment, we take the step in a new direction to our next part of this journey.

As we start socializing this plan of ours, we are experiencing polar opposite reactions depending on the person we are sharing the information with. Amidst the “That’s so awesome”, “You will never regret this” and “This is the best gift you can give your children”, we have discovered a collection of people who’s own anxieties and fears give them cause to say things like “Well, we would never do this” , “Aren’t you worried about the safety of your kids/missing school/getting out of real estate/living with your spouse 24/7 and so on” and the best one “That is the stupidest idea I have ever heard”.

For a tiny while, when those fear mongers set their panic light to on, I let it become my panic. For a second it threw me & I got caught up in feeling negligent on not having a plan. But I took a step back and looked again at our resolve: the universe will give you what you need.

For us, our fear of NOT actually taking this opportunity is far GREATER than what might happen on the trip.

Part of this adventure is that it will get messy. We will likely miss flights, end up in a crappy hotel rooms, go over budget or even get so frustrated with each other we walk out for a “break”. But its the messy we are most looking forward to. To teaching the kids how to bounce back when shit hits the fan and how to adapt when things don’t go anywhere near as planned. We believe THAT is the greatest thing we can teach our kids. And we believe that the connection this will bring us as a family is probably the best part of why we’re heading out.

Dad says:

The devil is in the details, or so they say. And who wants to live with the devils of this world anyhow? You can overthink anything to the point of paralysis, and then nothing gets done. Ever. I have sat in meetings where the only thing that was accomplished was to set the timing for the next meeting, and even that was hotly debated. If all you do is wait, looking before you leap, you don’t go anywhere. ever. And who wants that? Why, not me, I say!

With that in mind, I seem to react badly to the naysayers of the world. We haven’t made this decision without any study, or consideration of what might be the effect on our family. And in the end, the decision is ours. I find it odd that the unsolicited comments seem to stream forward without any thought as to whether they were wanted, or if they might have an unintended effect. Maybe this is one of those times where I would love to hear “that is super incredible!”, whether you think it is incredibly stupid or wow adventurous. Just sit back, let me fill in the blanks thus far, and then try and fall asleep figuring out if we are crazy after all…

So. Go forth, be bold, live with the consequences occasionally. But sometimes, you won’t have to, because it all works out in the end. And even if it doesn’t, well, oh the stories we will tell. N’est pas?

Travel

If Not Now, Then When? A Life-Changing Moment.

by Jenn & Chris on March 23, 2016

This life.

This beautiful, awesome, amazing, privileged, lucky life that we are all leading can often feel seriously and unabashedly undervalued.

Not too long ago, we travelled to Tanzania to climb Mt. Kilimanjaro. I can without a doubt tell you that it changed something in us. It was more than simply conquering the summit; though hells to the yeah, we were proud of that accomplishment. It was tough, most definitely, one of the hardest things we’ve ever done. The mountain gave us the confidence to know that the impossible is only impossible, until you do it.

But there was so much more woven into that trek.

It began with the guides: the men who helped us climb the mountain. We spent a week with them, walking 8-9 hrs a day, talking and learning about their lives, the challenge to get ahead, the corruption in Africa, the amount of money they earned in a year (which was often under $1000), the intensity of their hustle (mostly to be able to pay for schooling or food for their children), their home and their pride in their families. Life seemed like such a struggle for them. Yet despite all of this, their spirit and their smiles were ever-present. No matter what the challenge they encountered, they would simply reply with Hakuna Matata, which truly and honestly means No Worries in Swahili.

We came home to our house, our 2 cars, our phones, our computers, our full closets, countless shoes and our various amusements. Our fridges were full of groceries, we had plenty of pretty things for our house and toys for our kids were abundant. And it all felt ridiculous.

I stood one day in Toys R Us and watched countless kids (including my own) whine or throw a tantrum because their parents were not getting the latest Shopkins or Wii game. It was like I was Katniss witnessing the opulence of the Capital in the Hunger Games for the first time, and it made me sick.

Something in that moment woke me up.

What have we been doing?

Our children (and the majority of children living in this first world nation) truly have no clue how lucky they are. I want them to feel the world. Yet telling them or showing them online the kind of conditions that other children experience in the world is not enough.. We don’t see the kind of compassion or empathy we would expect for their fellow people. They are numb. They have become too over-exposed in the digital space to be able to fully appreciate their lot in life.

And an idea started to twist and turn in my head.

We needed to make a change. And not something minor.

A massive, life-affecting kind of change to kick this #Firstworldproblem in the ass.

It has always been our dream to go on a big trip. To travel the world and find opportunities to immerse ourselves in other cultures. To give back where we can.

We use the phrase “Life is too short” as a catch-all, an answer to cover all the possibilities when we want to do better, be better. Yet do we really pay attention to what that phrase really means?

It was time to walk the talk. We decided it was time to go and witness first hand the way the world works, and the role we play on the planet. To follow our dreams.

How can we ask our kids to follow their dreams when we haven’t followed our own?

We realized the time for us is now. No waiting.

If not now, then when?

When (if ever) is the right time to take that leap of faith and go do something extraordinary? You could spend your whole life waiting for the perfect moment, or you could take a leap of faith and make now that perfect time.

And so our big announcement is that we are selling our house, taking a leave from work, and traveling the globe with our family for 6 months at the end of this year.

This isn’t about going on vacation. This is about teaching our kids to become global citizens. To understand, to connect and to appreciate cultures all over this big, beautiful world of ours.

We want to make the biggest impact on our children while we still can. We have no idea what to expect, but we are going to take the leap. The universe is begging for us to explore it. For us, this is about living in the moment, in the now. We are going to go for it, let fear go and trust.

Trust that there will be good days and bad. Trust that we are risking everything and nothing. That we as a family will grow deeper connections and that our kids will learn amazing things on the road. Trusting (and believing) that this will make all the difference in their lives and ours.

We are so excited about our adventure and look forward to sharing the highs and lows of our preparations and our journey on our blog. We hope you will come along with us for this next chapter in our lives.

To making the when..now.

We started letting the words of this trip tickle our tongue even in this post awhile back. We didn’t realize then that we were starting to write this story. Think about what you desire most. Write it down. It very well could lead to your next chapter.

IF WE CAN DO IT. YOU CAN DO IT.

Family Matters

How to host an easy Christmas Open House

by Jenn & Chris on December 15, 2014

One thing my husband jokes about not knowing what he was getting into is how much I LOVE to host a good and unique party.

This year as we celebrated our 11th Annual Xmas Open House, because we were literally finishing a flooring reno the night before, I was completely unprepared. 100%.

But I am good under pressure. So if you gotta do it, do it with style.

Here are a few tips to breeze through an Open House and still look like you meant to do it all.

Switch up the look of the room by tying up the curtains

DRINK

Years back, a good friend introduced us to Eggnog In Quantity from the Joy of Cooking. We call it Killer Nog and if you aren’t careful it will knock you off your feet. After a few tries, I have modified this slightly to suit our tastes.

Killer Eggnog Recipe

Serves 20-30 people

12 Egg yolks
3/4 lb. of sugar
3-5 cups of dark rum (dark is better than spiced)
6-8 cups of whipping cream
12 Egg whites
Nutmeg and cinnamon

Directions:

Night Before:

1) Separate eggs.

Tip: I know it’s a simple concept but separating each egg individually in a small bowl first to ensure no shells go into the mass of yolks and whites has saved me countless fishing expeditions.

2) Beat yolks till they are light in colour. Beat in sugar and add half of rum, beating constantly.

Tip: I use my KitchenAid mixer which makes this step insanely simple.

3) Refrigerate overnight to get rid of egg taste. If you are doing all the morning of the party, let mixture stand for at least an hour.

Day of Party:

4) Add remaining rum and whip cream while beating constantly.

5) Let sit covered in the refrigerator for 2-3 hrs.

6) Beat egg whites until stiff but still moist. Fold egg whites into the other ingredients.

7) Garnish with nutmeg and cinnamon

Tip: This is a boozy recipe so to keep people functioning throughout the day, we only include 1.5 cups of Rum to sit overnight and then 1.5 cups added in in the morning. We use whip cream instead of heavy cream and have a regular egg nog on hand if its a bit thick and needs to be cut.

Table — Wood platter, garland and jewellery boxes were part of our table

Twinkling Light Punch Recipe

Serves 20-30 people

2 Frozen Pink Lemonade

1 Frozen Orange Juice

2 Cups of Sugar

2 Cans of Pineapple Juice

2 Bottles of Cranberry Cocktail

2L of Gingerale

1/3 Cup of Lemon Juice

Garnish with all kinds of seasonal fruit

Tip: Night before fill ziploc bags with water. A block of ice melts much slower and doesn’t dilute the punch as quickly.

House — You gotta love that our angel looks like she is about to go cliff diving

FOOD

Serves 30 people

Keep it simple.

Open House Menu

Beef Tenderloin served with dinner rolls, special mustard and horseradish

Costco Tortiere served with HP sauce

Shrimp Ring with cocktail sauce

Slow cooked IKEA Meatballs using IKEA gravy

Veggie and Hummus

Curried Devilled Eggs

Charcuterie Plate

Cheese Plate

Nachos and Salsa

Pickles, Olives, Antipasto

Arugula, Cherry Tomato, Boccacini and Balsamic glaze bites

Melted Brie with Maple syrup, Carmelized Onion, Slivered almonds

PRESENTATION

Get creative in how you display your food. Jewellery boxes, tea cups, shooter glasses, potting pails can provide a new look to your fun festive table.

Add vanilla candles around the room and simmer cinnamon sticks on the stove to keep the house delighting senses as people walk in.

Besem candles Vanilla Chai smell out of this world

MUSIC

Songza’s Holiday lists have been our superhero this whole holiday season. Just concierge up what you are looking for and you are ready to go.

MOMENTS

Taking time to enjoy friends over the holidays could very well be the best gift you can give yourself.

ENJOY!

Family Matters

I can’t find my underwear – Surviving a reno

by Jenn & Chris on December 11, 2014

I have just been walking around naked in my house for the last 15 minutes.

Not because I’m being flirty with the hubs or because I’ve just gotten out of the shower.

It’s cause I can’t find my underwear.

Who knew underwear might very well be my downfall?

A few weeks ago, we experienced a series of hardwood accidents (the floor has begun to splinter) that finally had us admit it was time to get new floors. That prompted a super quick search for a good deal and even faster installation plan. We found a fantastic offer that fit within our budget (Damn, flooring is expensive!) and made arrangements to have them installed this week.

Yes, this week.

You know, between the party we had on Saturday and the party we are having this coming Sunday? Yes. Sunday.

Hope we will still be like this at their age.

Why on earth would we do something like this at this time of year? Because we kind of had to (in for a penny in for a pound) and because we were given a great incentive on the installation. Of course we did. Cause who else would be moronic enough to replace their floors two weeks before Christmas?

A number of friends have said that this has Jenn written all over it. Is it because I’m a person that just tackles whatever is in front of her and gets it done regardless of the effort it takes to get there? Or is it because I have overloaded us to a degree that is baffling to them? Their world not being the same comfort zone as mine in terms of events, logistics, etc..?

I have done events for 90,000 people, managed rallies with 2,000 motorcycles, organized massive road shows and demo programs across Canada. I live and breath in a world where Plan to Fail and Fail to Plan is the norm. Where flexibility and adaptability are a person’s best game.

But this one might break me.

I’m not sure what it is exactly. Managing the kids logistics in with our own? Trying to coordinate a plan when the timing isn’t quite working? My Type A personality causing way too much anxiety with how “apart and strewn about” the house is? We’ve done renos before but surviving a reno is always a challenge. No?

This is where #TeamPowell truly makes our magic happen.

Both of us are keenly aware that we are on the high rung of the stress ladder right now (work for each of us has been epic busy the last few weeks) but I see us striving to have each other’s back. We recognize that emotions are raw right now and are very careful to not take it out on the other. (This was something we learned was crucial when we quit smoking).

We are working to find moments to have fun in the midst of the chaos. To laugh.

and right now I think its hysterical that I can’t find my underwear.