Mom Says:
There is a sweet spot you need to find in social media these days. It’s about finding ways to stay positive in such a heavy atmosphere of negativity .
It’s so easy to get sucked in. You are assaulted daily with snarly, grumpy, angry posts and horrid, heartbreaking issues that can’t help but bring you down. It comes naturally to be negative. You have to work at being positive.
I have chosen not to bring that negativity further into my life. No likes, comments or shares in order to see less of them in my feed.
Instead I am focusing on creating karma that brings a positive frame of mind and a happy outlook on life.
To do that, I looked back to some of the best pieces of #LifeAdvice I have been given over the years.
1) If someone takes the time to show you who they really are, believe them the first time.
My mother in law shared this Maya Angelou quote with me on one of the first days we met.
I loved it.
This one has gotten me through a hundred or so moments of frustration when someone I care about (or think I should care about) acts like a total arse. Once an arse, always an arse. They showed you the first time their true colours, why so often do we hope that people like this somehow change?
Don’t be surprised by their jerkiness. Just move onward and upward. Leave them to their ugly.
My MIL also taught me how to find quiet on the end of our dock. For that I am forever grateful.
2) What does this all mean in the context of life?
This one my dad gave me. I didn’t realize at the time how often I would refer back to this throughout my life.
If you are upset…really upset at the way things are going, take a step back and look at it in the whole context of your lifetime…does it really matter? That much? 10 out of 10 times, it was a no.
My dad had many wise words growing up. I used to not “get it”. Now I see his influence so often when I am talking to the kids. Thanks Dad. (& Thanks for being my dance partner)
3) If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.
I cut this Maya Angelou quote out as a teenager and put in my journal. She seems to circle my world on an on-going basis.
Bottom line, in this karmic world you are still responsible for your own destiny. YOU make the choice on how you are going to live.
If YOU choose to live negatively, always complaining, always finding the down side in things..the negativity will be ever present.
But if you choose to live a life focus on “positivitude” then you will invite positive into your life and amazing, beautiful, wonderful things will start appearing in your world.
Trust me..Karma might be a bitch. But if you are nice, you might get to know a different side of her.
Dad Says:
Early in my life I was told I would need 3 things.
A good lawyer, a good accountant and a good wife.
Not necessarily in that order.
@Manulife is asking you to spread some positive by thanking those in your life who have given you great #LifeAdvice. Take a moment to thank someone important to you. That positive will sure come back in spades.